Saturday, March 2, 2013

A small tribute to Shirley


I had been posting images from my Yarden on Dave's Garden [DG], be it flowers, birds or insects, for some years before.  There was one person using the screen name as 'scooterbug' who was also taking part in the discussion forums where I had posted images.  I had come to know that the person was Shirley, the same name as that of my earliest primary school teacher of decades ago.  

One day, in September 2006, she sent me this message on the internal mail at DG: 
Hiya Dinu ,
is the address listed here in the 'Members Address Exchange' your current addie ?
~ ~ ~ S
There was a move to register all the members' addresses on DG at that time.  She had found it.  When I confirmed to her, she said she was ordering a book for me online.  So I gave my office address, surprised, delighted and moved by her gesture.  She was sitting half way round the earth in the United States and had ordered a book from an Indian supplier!  Book pictured above.  The book was delivered at my desk two weeks later and I did not know how to acknowledge her.  She had not told what it was about.  Now the book I was actually looking for, which she did not know, was sitting in my hands!  She had gauged my interest in birds from the forums. So she had decided to choose this for me!  

This is why I have held DG in high esteem also because it has members as generous, kind and helpful to others as Shirley and Ursula.  There are many others who I have heard of.   Shirley knew me only on those discussion forums and she was coming forward on her own to gift me with that!  What we receive, must be transferred to someone and this cycle must go on. Ursula, of whom I have already mentioned in my earlier posts, called this as 'pay forward'. 

Late in December 2012, I got the news that Shirley was no more.  She had left us on 18th December and the previous day was her birthday. It was really shocking news.  One member got to know that it was due to a heart attack.  I checked her facebook page and found that her last posting there was on 17th.  I had posted this screen shot image on DG in the 'Memory Garden' forum where the sad news was shared.


Some who had seen her images opined that she did not look that old, while some admired her sense of humour and kindness. There were a few images of her shared on that DG forum.  May he soul rest in peace. The book will be specially cherished.

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[This post repeats in Dinu's Yarden also].

3 comments:

RAJI MUTHUKRISHNAN said...

Most touching.

RAJI MUTHUKRISHNAN said...

Very touching. A nice gesture on her part to have sent you the book.

jothi's jottings said...

And I thought that there's no use of these so called internet friends. Looks like you had a few genuine friends in that DG, where you're sent seeds even, let alone books.

I too had a few intimate friends on Photoblog. They shared their knowledge of the camera. And also whatever they liked. Like songs, books etc. I lost touch with them when the site changed hands and the new changes were not to my liking. But a couple still continue to be in touch with me to date on FB. A companionship of maybe 15 years or so! With no chance of meeting physically. But we support each other.